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What does your home say about you?

If I were to ask you today, "What does your home say about you?", what would be the first thing you think of?

Before you read any further, I’ll let you know we are going to get a little scientific and go into the world of Psychology.

The simplest way to start answering this is by taking a look around you. Subconsciously or consciously, you put that family picture in that place, that favourite comfortable chair in its perfect spot, and that oh-so-important cabinet where you can conveniently place all the keys and knick-knacks.

All of these minor details are systems that you and your family have created to make your every day easier. I think from this, you can agree that there is no way two families will have exactly the same system. However, that same family can easily carry that system or something similar to the next home and the next one.


This is why I thought I’d write this blog post showing you some of the secrets behind creating a home that reflects you and your family.

“Essentially, what your home does is distil a very long history of behaviours and choices,” explains Sam Gosling, Professor of Psychology at the University of Texas.

“If you meet someone for a short period of time you only have a very short sample of their behaviour. But the items in their home reflect persistent and repeated behaviours and choices (whether deliberately or subconsciously), carried out time and time again.” So the next time you are thinking about refreshing your home or starting a home project, please remember these 3 key points. By using this you are effectively telling your story and what you believe without having to say anything. Your home will do all the talking for you.


1. Claim your identity

Use your home to make purposeful and deliberate statements about yourself. You might be displaying cultural iconography, photos of you with your partner, certain books you want people to see or favourite objects.


2. Express your genuine feelings and thoughts

The goal here is to make us think about certain things and feel a certain way.

In a living room we may want a sense of welcome or family, so make decisions to reflect this. While in our bedroom, we may want a sense of romance, comfort or rejuvenation. And as our priorities and family dynamics change, what we want from our spaces changes.


Lastly, and my personal favourite section:

3. Traces of a journey

It’s not just where you are now that can be reflected in your home, but those trends and phases we’ve gone through can still be reflected somewhere.

For example, if you go into a kitchen and someone has a calendar, it tells you that they’re trying to be organised. It may also tell you that they aspire to plan ahead. These are only a few of many. however, I thought that it is a key part of thinking a little deeper into making sure that we create Homes that reflect us.

As you read this, I believe you either thought of your own home or a home of a friend or family member. I'd like you to share this post with them, I'd love to get any feedback and thoughts about this. Perhaps, if they find this information helpful, they can Subscribe and join the community too.


Until next time, keep creating the home you love.